About Kalindi

I came to psychology through literature, which is probably why I have never been able to treat people as data points. I read English and history before I read Rogers, and the thing that has stayed with me from both is that the story someone tells about what happened to them is not a decoration on the event. Very often it is the event.

I studied psychology at Lady Shri Ram College, where my final-year dissertation asked how college students understood forgiveness — when they granted it, when they withheld it, and what they believed it cost them. I expected to find a study about generosity. I found a study about endings: about what people do with an injury once the relationship containing it is over.

I went on to a Master's in Psychology at the University of Delhi, specialising in Organizational Behaviour, and qualified UGC-NET in Psychology. Organizational work taught me something I did not expect to value as much as I do — that behaviour is always situated. People are not simply carrying their histories around; they are responding, continuously, to systems that reward some things and punish others. Families do this. So do relationships.

What I am doing now

I am a doctoral researcher at G.D. Goenka University, Gurugram, working on post-traumatic growth and relational resilience in young adults — specifically, how people navigate the end of a romantic relationship and under what conditions that ending produces an evolved sense of self rather than a diminished one.

Alongside the doctorate I am moving my practice towards counselling psychology. That transition is deliberate and it is not yet complete; I would rather say so plainly than imply a longer clinical history than I have. What I bring at this stage is a serious grounding in the research, a genuine specialism in the territory of loss and repair, and the time to give a small number of people real attention.

Writing

I write essays about what the research actually says, for the people living through the thing being researched. Findings on grief, forgiveness and growth tend to stay locked inside journals that the people who most need them will never open. Getting them out is, to me, part of the job rather than a sideline to it.

A note on what I am and am not

I am a counselling psychologist and a doctoral researcher. I am not a registered clinical psychologist and not a psychiatrist: I do not diagnose conditions, and I do not prescribe or advise on medication. If what you are carrying needs that kind of care, the most useful thing I can do is say so early and help you find the right person.